Saturday Morning MLB notebook…by Chuck Duboff

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Joe DiMaggio holds the New York Yankees rookie record with 29 Home Runs in 1936.
Aaron Judge has now hit 25 and it’s only June 24th.  Mark McGwire has the rookie
record of 49 in 1987.
  • Wake up this morning to see that the Yankees finally released Chris Carter and brought up Tyler Austin from AAA; I have been saying for months, Carter is one of the worst major league players I have ever seen; from Houston to Milwaukee to the Yankees…plays with no emotion, can’t field and is a terrible hitter.  I have lots of respect for Brian Cashman, but this is one move I questioned the day they signed Carter in the off season.
  • Nice story coming out of LA, with yet another rookie crushing baseballs; Cody Bellinger, who was almost sent down to AAA in April, is doing for the Dodgers what Aaron Judge is doing for the Yankees.
  • How bad are the Philadelphia Phillies; when I checked on Wednesday, they had won only 11 of their last 49 ballgames.  The conjecture is that the Phillies are aiming for 2019 to field an exciting team…they are following the path of both the Cubs and Astros, who completed gutted their teams, picked up high draft picks and now are stacked with great players.  How’d you like to be a fan of a team which says in spring training, we still have a couple of years to go before we’re any good.  Both the Phillies and the Padres are on this path and both play mind numbingly bad baseball.  Wonder if the owners would consider lowering ticket prices for the fans who have to put up with a mediocre team.
  • The unwritten rules of baseball: you don’t bunt to break up a no-hitter or perfect game.  Sorry, last time I checked a bunt was considered a hit…if you don’t want the bunt to break up the no no, then make a freaking play to stop it; if you’re talented enough to drop a bunt down and beat out the throw to first, good on ya.Bunting on a no hitter
  • Interesting watching Big Papi have his number retired in Boston last night; I’ve never had a problem with Ortiz ( Pedro is a different story), but if you look at his baseball card from the season he was brought over to the Red Sox from the Twins, you will see a man, much like Barry Bonds, who was half the size he was when he was crushing home runs.  When asked about steroids, PED’s, he gets very defensive…
  • Watched Max Scherzer pitch again for the Nats; what a great pitcher he is.  Felt badly for him…had another no-hitter going and was into the 8th inning; you could see he was running out of gas, but given the sorry state of the National’s bullpen, he stayed in there and ended up losing the game 2-1.  That loss is on the GM of the Nats, Mike Rizzo…go out and get your team some bullpen help!!
  • The National League West is going to be some dog race, right to the end of the season.  As of this morning, Arizona, Colorado and the Dodgers are all playing over .600 ball…that is really something.  They would appear to have a lock on both wild cards…so NL Central and East…you’re going to have to win outright.
  • Though the Twins have the foundation for an exciting young team, the Cleveland Indians are going to start pulling away.  They’ve got great starting pitching, a shut down closer in Andrew Miller and Edwin Encarnacion is starting to heat up.  With Terry Francona driving the bus…I can see the Tribe in the World Series again this season.  FYI…love Tito…great manager and just loves baseball.  Bonus points if you remember Terry Francona playing for the Montreal Expos.

  • Yasiel Puig…time to grow up buddy…I know it’s a big adjustment from life in Cuba; but you’ve been in North America for several years now…you’re not going to have a more understanding organization than the Dodgers…learn to show some respect to the game of baseball.

New York Yankees News and Notes:

  • Nice to see Masahero Tanaka back to his old form last night, facing his countryman Yu Darvish.  Though it may seem tedious to others, there’s nothing better than two great pitchers going up against each other.
  • Ronald Torreyes…talk about a guy living the dream.  A journeyman infielder whom the Yankees picked up…I dare say he’s been one of the most valuable players for the Yankees this season, filling in for Didi for a long stretch and Hedley the past few days.  Last night he picked up his first walk off RBI…so great seeing his teammates excited for him.  You don’t have to be a big man in baseball to play the game  (see Jose Altuve)Terreyes
  • Tyler Clippard has just suddenly lost it; had a great April and May coming out of the bullpen, but has been awful the last few weeks.  Same with Dillon Betances…not the dominating pitcher he was.
  • I love the Yankees double play combo of Didi and Starlin Castro…but, watching both of them commit inexcusable errors the other night, is just a reminder that no matter how good you are…mistakes are going to happen.
  • Aaron Judge is 1 of 6 players in Yankees history to hit at least 25 HR through 70 team games. The others:
    Babe Ruth
    Roger Maris
    Lou Gehrig
    Mickey Mantle
    Alex Rodriguez 

    Lou Gehrig, Babe Ruth, Roger Maris and Mickey Mantle.

Sunday Hop, Baltimore Chop…do you know what an Immaculate Inning is? by Chuck Duboff




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Here’s the explanation for all those baseball terms!!

Bonus:  do you know what an Immaculate inning is?


  • Sunday hop: a soft hit that takes a couple of easy bounces to an infielder for an easy out.
  • Mendoza Line: The Mendoza Line is an expression in baseball in the United States, deriving from the name of shortstop Mario Mendoza, whose poor batting average is taken to define the threshold of incompetent hitting…usually refers to a batting average below .200 (the Mendoza Line)
  • Fungo: A fielding practice drill where a person hits fly balls intended to be caught.
  • Around the horn: when the ball gets hit to the third baseman who throws to the second baseman who throws to first.
  • Banjo hitter: not a very good hitter; lots of bloops and doinks and singles.
  • Chin Music: when a pitcher purposely throws inside, not grazing the hitter, but making him aware!!chin
  • Hit for the cycle: when a batter gets a single, double, triple and home run in one game.
  •  Texas Leaguer: a fly ball to the outfield that falls in no man’s land between several outfielders.
  • Dying quail: A batted ball that drops in front of the outfielders for a hit, often unexpectedly (like a shot bird). Also known as a blooper, a chinker, a bleeder.
    and Judy hitter: see banjo hitter!!  nothing more than singles!!
  • Suicide squeeze: with a runner on third, the batter must lay down a bunt; the runner on third breaks for home…when executed properly its a thing of beauty…when the batter misses the bunt, the runner coming from third is DOA.
  • Uncle Charlie: another name for a curve ball.

    Pesky pole

    That’s the Pesky Pole down the right field line.

  • Pesky pole: the right field pole in Fenway Park named after Red Sox player Johnny Pesky.  (lots of mythology as to why its called that)
  • The battery: refers to the pitcher and catcher who are playing at that time.
  • A can of corn: A high, easy-to-catch, fly ball hit to the outfield.
  • Eephus pitch: a very low-speed junk pitch. The delivery from the pitcher has very low velocity and usually catches the hitter unprepared.
  • The Golden Sombraro: when one hitter strikes out four times in a game, he gets the Golden Sombraro>

Busy times in Jets land; we think…by Chuck Duboff

Jets Stanley Cup

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  • Why is there such a cone of silence around the Jets?  I’d like to understand their thinking.
  • Can we strike gold again at 13 in the Draft?  Josh Morrisey turned out to be a pretty darn good at pick 13.
  • Do the Jets have a deal with Vegas not to take Toby Enstrom…or, does Enstrom finish out his career with Vegas?
  • Goalie, goalie…did somebody say goalie?  Is there an actual plan to upgrade our goaltending situation; will the Jets make a trade for either a front line goalie or a more reliable backup than Michael Hutchinson?
  • All the work that True North is putting into upgrading the Bell-MTS Centre is fantastic; but, at some point the on ice product also needs an upgrade…the patience of die hard fans is wearing awfully thin.
  • Is there going to be a contract extension for Paul Maurice this summer or will he be in limbo all next season?
  • Do the Jets load up on defence men in this draft?  We are stock piled with quality forwards in the system, while our depth on D is rather thin.
  • When the schedule is announced on Thursday, will it be a little more balanced for the Jets…it seems like other teams always have games in hand on our team and that leaves us scrambling by the end of the year.
  • Who does Vegas take tonight?  Is it Toby or Marco?  Personally, I hope it’s Dano…not a huge fan and it would seem he has some unknown baggage which leaves coaches very unhappy with him.
  • Classy move on the part of Enstrom to waive his No Move Clause; he likes it here and wants to finish his career in Winnipeg…didn’t have to wave his NMC…well done Toby.
  • Can Tyler Myers play a whole season and stay healthy?  I think he’s an elite defence man, and it would be awesome to get a whole season out of him.
  • I’ve said this before, but, both Edmonton and Toronto went out and got solid goaltending last season, Cam Talbot and Fredrik Anderson…they both made the playoffs; that is what I believe separated the Jets from those two teams, quality goaltending.  Carolina (Darling), Dallas (Bishop), Calgary (Smith)..they’ve all gone out and upgraded their goaltending…memo to Chevy from your loyal fans…please do something.
  • Jacob Trouba…any hope that we get him signed to a long term deal this summer?  Scheif and Buff made long term commitments to the team, is,  it hoping too much that we could get Troubs also locked up long term?
  • I’d like to see Lowrey’s line become the 4th line…and have a 3rd line of Roslovic, Conner and ???  (Shane Doan anyone??  Has he got anything left in the tank?)
  • Free Agency on July 1st…will we continue to sit on the sidelines or actually try and upgrade this team?
  • It’s supposedly summer in Winnipeg/Canada…and the talk for the next two weeks will be hockey, hockey and more hockey.

Dying quail, Uncle Charlie, Baltimore Chop; do you know your baseball terms?…by Chuck Duboff


There isn’t another sport which cherishes its history as much as baseball.  Baseball geeks love their statistics, coming up with new numbers everyday to explain hitting, pitching and fielding patterns.

Another wonderful part of the mythology of baseball is some of the unique names given to certain pitches, hits and plays in a game.

I’ll post these today, let you think about them (no google searches) and then explain them tomorrow…how many do you know?

  • Sunday hop
  • Mendoza Line


  • Baltimore Chop
  • Texas Leaguer
  • Fungo
  • Around the horn
  • Banjo hitter
  • Chin Music
  • Hit for the cycle
  • Dying quail
  • Punch and Judy hitter
  • Suicide squeeze
  • Uncle Charlie
  • Pesky pole
  • The battery
  • A can of corn
  • Eephus pitch
  • The Golden Sombraro

The Saturday Morning MLB notebook, edition 1…by Chuck Duboff

…and…after a 5 game winning streak over Baltimore and Boston…the Yankees are on their dreaded West Coast trip…and are now on a 5 game losing streak!! Baseball…gotta love it!!

Chuck's & Geoff's Eclectic Blog.


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  • Launch angle and exit velocity…the first stats from the age of analytics that I’ve actually bought into; you learn a lot about a player by the launch angle of a hit ball and velocity with which it is coming off the bat.
  • Aaron Judge and Gary Sanchez…not Maris and Mantle, but they sure are fun to watch at the plate; Judge has incredible power to all fields, steals bases, and plays a great right field.  Meanwhile, Sanchez covers the whole plate and crushes the ball; like Judge, many over 400 feet.  Behind the plate he has rocket for an arm..exciting times ahead for my Yankees.
  • The Baltimore Orioles are in free fall, mainly because of really poor starting pitching.  You don’t have pitching, you don’t win!!!
  • The Blue Jays are a mess…yes, they have been hurt by lots of injuries, but so have many teams  (in the…

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The Saturday Morning MLB notebook, edition 1…by Chuck Duboff


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  • Launch angle and exit velocity…the first stats from the age of analytics that I’ve actually bought into; you learn a lot about a player by the launch angle of a hit ball and velocity with which it is coming off the bat.
  • Aaron Judge and Gary Sanchez…not Maris and Mantle, but they sure are fun to watch at the plate; Judge has incredible power to all fields, steals bases, and plays a great right field.  Meanwhile, Sanchez covers the whole plate and crushes the ball; like Judge, many over 400 feet.  Behind the plate he has rocket for an arm..exciting times ahead for my Yankees.
  • The Baltimore Orioles are in free fall, mainly because of really poor starting pitching.  You don’t have pitching, you don’t win!!!
  • The Blue Jays are a mess…yes, they have been hurt by lots of injuries, but so have many teams  (in the past five days, the Yankees lost CC Sabathia, Aaron Hicks and Gary Sanchez to injury)…I don’t think the Jays have overcome the loss of EE and their starting pitching is not what they expected.
  • Put up your hand if you thought the Minnesota Twins would be battling for first on June 17th…I had them finishing last again; I don’t think they’ll hold off Cleveland, but nice to see a bright future for the Twinkies.
  • Detroit, Kansas City and the White Sox…BORING!!!!
  • Houston Astros have run away with the AL West…their talent level is outstanding…Carlos Correa and George Springer are great young players, while Dallas Keichel is back to his great pitching.  The Astros are an example of the trend in all sports (Hello NY Jets, Cleveland Browns, Philadelphia 76ers) of teams gutting their roster and rebuilding on high draft picks.

    MLB: Spring Training-St. Louis Cardinals at Washington Nationals

    Love watching Max Scherzer pitch for the Nationals.

  • If the Washington Nationals could ever get late inning bullpen help, they’d be tough to beat…but, far too many leads are blown in the 8th and 9th inning.  They may have to pay big to find a closer.  The rest of the division, Mets, Phillies, Braves don’t instil confidence in their fan base.
  • Who saw the Milwaukee Brewers and Eric Thames giving the Chicago Cubs a run for their money?  I think the Cubs are still in hangover mode from last year’s historic World Series win…if they get out of their funk, they’ll pull away, but that’s not a given.


    Charlie Blackmon is a tremendous lead off hitter for the Rockies.

  • I really, really like the Colorado Rockies lineup…Charlie Blackmon is some kinda talented, as is Nolan Arenado…and they finally have some pitching.  Though the Dodgers freely spend Magic Johnson’s money, the only thing that will allow them to compete is the youth on their team.  Who saw the San Francisco Giants nosediving like they have this year?
  • MLB wants to do something about the pace of the game, shortening the length of games…so they do something ridiculous like having the intentional walk automatically go to first with no pitches; i have seen far too many mistakes made by the pitcher and catcher on an intentional walk to just shelve it.  So, two minutes are possibly saved here.  But then…instant freakin replay!!!  Some replays are so tedious, they take up to two to three minutes per challenge…and if you have four or five per game, you’re adding, not subtracting, minutes onto the game.  Leave the game alone, it was just fine as it was, thank you.  Oh, and Chase Utley, thanks for nothing…your slide into second base now has taken away exciting plays at both second and home; this isn’t ballet (which I like), but rather pro sports.


Yankees News and Notes:

  • Yankees were on a great 5 game winning streak, handling both Boston and Baltimore at home; then the dreaded West Coast trip to Anaheim and Oakland; bullpen falls apart, CC put on the DL, Sanchez and Hicks injured, and suddenly you’re down to a one game lead int he AL East.
  • Love the double play combo of Dee Dee Gregorious and Starlin Castro…great gloves and both can really rake.
  • Matt Holiday has helped Aaron Judge a lot this year, teaching him how to be a pro and his approach at the plate.  Great signing by Cashman in the off season.
  • Chris Carter has Dave Kingman written all over him; it’s either feast or famine for him…he either crushes a ball to deep centre field or strikes out…
  • I like waht I have seen so far of the Yankees 5th starter, Jordan Montgomery; a crafty young lefty who mixes it up like Andy Petitte.
  • Masahero Tanaka sure hasn’t given the Yankees Ace like pitching this season; his pitches are flat with little movement on them.
  • I could listen to Michael Kay and Paul O’Neil on the YES Network 24/7; smart baseball guys, and even more importantly they have fun with what they are doing.  I love how self-deprecating Paul O’Neil is…so much fun.


    Michael Kay, Paul O’Neil and Ken Singleton in the YES broadcast booth…so entertaining and knowledgable about baseball.

  • Jon Sterling and Suzy Waldman on WFAN are a joy to listen to …takes me back to the days of listening to baseball on the radio..they paint a great picture of what’s going on in the game…so entertaining.
  • Aaron Hicks has turned into the great CF the Minnesota Twins thought he would be; another great move by Brian Cashman.
  • Never been a big Brett Gardner fan…but he’s done a nice job in the leadoff spot this season…a surprising 13 HR’s already.  He and Holiday are having a “bald guys challenge”…to see who hits more HR”s this season…loser has to try and grow his hair out for a month…love it.
  • When the YES Network used to pan around Yankee Stadium, you’d still see thousands of Jeter jerseys…but, watch now and all you see are Judge, t-shirts and jerseys…they can’t make them up fast enough!!!
  • I don’t know if Aaron Judge can continue at this pace, but, there are no signs that he can’t; he’s sitting at a 23 HR’s, a batting average of .345, 52 RBI’s and when he’s not hitting home runs, he’s either walking or getting a hit.  Last night he flew around the bases and got a triple after crushing a ball against the right field fence.  The measuring stick is Mr. Jeter, but somebody raised Aaron Judge really well, because I don’t think i’ve seen a more humble young athlete in my life.  Lots of Jeter and Mark Scheifele in him.

A sea of tears…a world in need of peace, love and leadership. By Chuck Duboff



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The anger which permeates the world today is palpable.  Individuals walk the streets filled with a sense of hopelessness; multinationals produce weaponry designed to annihilate nations, all in the name of the mighty dollar. Religions justify unGodly behaviour and leave human kind wondering what has happened to decency, truth, compassion and human rights for fellow citizens of this earth.


Our planets environment is being destroyed by selfish, self-absorbed politicians in full denial.  Religious extremists on both the left and right act out in irrational behaviour, numb to the damage they are doing to the soul of this world.  Politicians lie, blatantly lie, stare you in the eye and lie, leaving citizens wondering what has happened to goodness, leadership, truth and the desire to make this a better home for all.


This world is in desperate need of a Leader.  An individual who is bright, compassionate, sincere and willing to do what is best for the future of man kind; an individual who will inspire, bring hope and a shining light to the darkness which currently permeates the world we live in.   An individual not controlled by the mighty dollar, but rather a Leader capable of bringing hope back…to replace anger with love, war with peace, hate with kindness.



Until such time as this Leader is found, I fear for our very near future…I fear for a world consumed with anger, hate, destruction, and a love of the all mighty dollar.

We need another Summer of Love, a Leader to bring sunshine and peace to our world.

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There’s a special sound of a ball hit 495 feet…you know it when you hear it; by Chuck Duboff

Yankee fans

If you can’t be there!!

Sunday afternoon, June 11th, I was watching the New York Yankees play the Baltimore Orioles on the YES television network.  The previous evening the Yankees had overwhelmed Orioles pitching in a 16-3 win.  It was a new day on Sunday and the Orioles were looking to avoid getting swept by their AL East rivals, the New York Yankees.

Chris Tillman was on the mound for the Orioles and it looked like he was going to cruise through the first inning.  He got through the first two batters, Brett Gardner and Aaron HIcks; both Yankees broadcasters, Michael Kay and Paul O’Neil, commented that Tillman had difficult first innings throughout the whole season…and prophetically, following getting two outs, the Yankees bats caught on fire once again, and scored five runs in the first inning.

In order to give Masahera Tanaka an extra days rest, the Yankees went with a bullpen committee pitching staff to face the Orioles.  The Yankees were taking care of things and had a comfortable 7-3 lead in the bottom of the 6th inning when…. Aaron Judge took a 1-1 pitch from Logan Verrett to left field…no, not just left field…he crushed the ball well over the bleachers and deep into the stands…but, it’s the sound of the ball coming off the bat…that’s not the sound of a 390 ft home run.   I was watching the game, when suddenly Verrett made a pitch…and the sound of the ball hitting the bat was indescribable…


I couldn’t believe what I had just seen; a ball driven so far, so deep into the stands!!  The broadcasters were almost speechless, the Yankees players in the dugout were in disbelief.  Replaying it over and over, there is a sound that you hear, when the bat and ball connect that is so unique, so rarely heard.  Wow, just wow.

Back when I was a little guy watching my Yankees, Mantle and Maris…the coverage of baseball was nowhere near the same.  There was the Saturday afternoon game of the week…and that was it. You didn’t get to see every game, every day, so you never really knew the true story of the home runs that Mantle and Maris were hitting.

Today, with the benefit of amazing technology, we can watch every pitch, every game,
every day.  I believe I’ve now watched Aaron Judge’s mammoth home run more than
a hundred times…unlike Roger or the Mick whose home runs I only saw if they hit them
on a Saturday afternoon.
Aaron Judge came up again in the 7th inning and crushed his 22nd home run of the season into right centre field…a mere 395 feet.  Coming back to the dugout he got the silent treatment from his team mates…Judge played along and pretended he was giving the high-five to every player…upon which all the players ran up to him with
In over 50 years of watching baseball, the only other time I can honestly remember
hearing that sound is when the Winnipeg Goldeyes were in the playoffs, extra innings
and Barbero Cannazero crushed one to deep left field…to win the game.  The moment the ball hit the bat you knew it was gone…deep over the fence, likely into the Red River.
A very humble young man, Aaron Judge; check out these great videos:

Depression in Men…for a better understanding of the struggles: a very useful article from HELPGUIDE.ORG

Depression in Men

What it Looks Like and How to Get Help

Depressed manAs men, we like to think of ourselves as strong and in control of our emotions. When we feel hopeless or overwhelmed by despair we often deny it or try to cover it up. But depression is a common problem that affects many of us at some point in our lives. While depression can take a heavy toll on your home and work life, you don’t have to tough it out. There are plenty of things you can start doing today to feel better.

What are the signs and symptoms of depression in men?

Men tend to be less adept at recognizing symptoms of depression than women. A man is more likely to deny his feelings, hide them from himself and others, or try to mask them with other behaviors. And while men may experience classic symptoms such as depressed mood, loss of interest in work or hobbies, weight and sleep disturbances, fatigue, and concentration problems, they are more likely than women to experience “stealth” depression symptoms such as irritability, substance abuse, and agitation.

The three most commonly overlooked signs of depression in men are:

  1. Physical pain. Sometimes depression in men shows up as physical symptoms—such as backache, frequent headaches, sleep problems, sexual dysfunction, or digestive disorders—that don’t respond to normal treatment.
  2. Anger. This could range from irritability, sensitivity to criticism, or a loss of your sense of humor to road rage, a short temper, or even violence. Some men become abusive or controlling.
  3. Reckless behavior. A man suffering from depression may exhibit escapist or risky behavior such as pursuing dangerous sports, driving recklessly, or engaging in unsafe sex. You might drink too much, abuse drugs, or gamble compulsively.

How to recognize depression in men

Depression affects millions of men of all ages and backgrounds, as well as those who care about them—spouses, partners, friends, and family. More than just a dip in mood in response to life’s setbacks and disappointments, depression changes how you think, feel, and function in your daily life. It can interfere with your productivity at work or school and impact your relationships, sleep, diet, and overall enjoyment of life. Severe depression can be intense and unrelenting.

Depression in men can often be overlooked. Many men find it difficult to talk about their feelings so they tend to focus on the physical symptoms that often accompany depression. This can result in the underlying depression going untreated.

Men suffering from depression are four times more likely to commit suicide than women. It’s important for any man to seek help with depression before feelings of despair become feelings of suicide. Talk honestly with a friend, loved one, or doctor about what’s going on in your mind.

There is plenty men can do to overcome depression. The important thing is to recognize the symptoms.

Am I depressed?

If you identify with several of the following, you may be suffering from depression.

  1. You feel hopeless and helpless
  2. You’ve lost interest in friends, activities, and things you used to enjoy
  3. You’re much more irritable, short-tempered, or aggressive than usual
  4. You’re consuming more alcohol, engaging in reckless behavior, or using TV, sports, and sex to self-medicate
  5. You feel restless and agitated
  6. Your sleep and appetite has changed
  7. You can’t concentrate or your productivity at work has declined
  8. You can’t control your negative thoughts

If you’re feeling suicidal…

Problems don’t seem temporary—they seem overwhelming and permanent. But if you reach out for help, you will feel better.

Read HelpGuide’s Suicide Prevention articles or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

For help outside the U.S., visit Befrienders Worldwide.

Triggers for depression in men

Biological, psychological, and social factors all play a part in depression in men, as do lifestyle choices, relationships, and coping skills. Stressful life events or anything that makes you feel helpless, profoundly sad, or overwhelmed by stress can also trigger depression in men, including:

  • Overwhelming stress at work, school, or home
  • Marital or relationship problems
  • Not reaching important goals
  • Losing or changing a job; embarking on military service
  • Constant money problems
  • Health problems such as chronic illness, injury, disability
  • Recently quitting smoking
  • Death of a loved one
  • Family responsibilities such as caring for children, spouse, or aging parents
  • Retirement; loss of independence

Seek social support to reduce stress and feel happier

Work commitments can often make it difficult for men to find time to maintain friendships, but close relationships are vital to helping you get through this tough time.

  • The simple act of talking to someone face to face about how you feel can be an enormous help.
  • The person you talk to doesn’t have to be able to fix you; they just need to be a good listener, someone who’ll listen attentively without being distracted or judging you.
  • If you don’t feel that you have anyone to turn to, it’s never too late to build new friendships and improve your support network.

Finding social support to beat male depression

Reach out to family and friends. Accepting help and support is not a sign of weakness and it won’t mean you’re a burden to others. In fact, most friends will be flattered that you trust them enough to confide in them.

Participate in social activities, even if you don’t feel like it. When you’re depressed, it feels more comfortable to retreat into your shell. But being around other people will boost your mood.

Join a support group for depression. Being with others facing the same problems can help reduce your sense of isolation and remove any stigma you may feel.

Volunteer. Being helpful to others delivers immense pleasure and is also a great way to expand your social network.

Meet new people with common interests by taking a class or joining a club.

Walk a dog. It’s good exercise for you and a great way to meet people.

Invite someone to a ballgame, movie, or concert. There are plenty of other people who feel just as awkward about reaching out and making new friends as you do. Be the one to break the ice.

Call or email an old buddy. Even if you’ve retreated from relationships that were once important to you, make the effort to reconnect.

Exercise for greater mental and physical health

When you’re depressed, just getting out of bed can seem like a daunting task, let alone exercising. But regular exercise can be as effective as antidepressant medication in countering the symptoms of depression in men. It’s also something you can do right now to boost your mood.

  • Aim to exercise for 30 minutes or more per day—or break that up into short, 10-minute bursts of activity. A 10-minute walk can improve your mood for two hours.
  • The most benefits for male depression come from rhythmic exercise—such as walking, weight training, swimming, martial arts, or dancing—where you move both your arms and legs.
  • Adding a mindfulness element is particularly effective. Focus on how your body feels as you move—the sensation of your feet hitting the ground, for example, or the wind on your skin.
  • Joining a class or exercising in a group can help keep you motivated and make exercise a social activity. Or find a workout buddy, and afterwards have a drink or watch a game together.

Eat a healthy diet to improve how you feel

What you eat has a direct impact on the way you feel.

Minimize sugar and refined carbs. You may crave sugary snacks, baked goods, or comfort foods such as pasta or French fries, but these “feel-good” foods quickly lead to a crash in mood and energy.

Reduce your intake of foods that can adversely affect your mood, such as caffeine, alcohol, trans fats, and foods with high levels of chemical preservatives or hormones.

Eat more Omega-3 fatty acids to give your mood a boost. The best sources are fatty fish (salmon, herring, mackerel, anchovies, sardines), seaweed, flaxseed, and walnuts.

Try foods rich in mood-enhancing nutrients, such as bananas (magnesium to decrease anxiety, vitamin B6 to promote alertness, tryptophan to boost feel-good serotonin levels) and spinach (magnesium, folate to reduce agitation and improve sleep).

Avoid deficiencies in B vitamins which can trigger depression. Eat more citrus fruit, leafy greens, beans, chicken, and eggs.

Make healthy lifestyle changes to lift your mood

Positive lifestyle changes can help lift depression and keep it from coming back.

Get enough sleep. When you don’t get enough sleep, your depression symptoms can be worse. Sleep deprivation exacerbates anger, irritability, and moodiness. Aim for somewhere between 7 to 9 hours of sleep each night.

Reduce stress. Too much stress exacerbates depression but there are healthy ways to cope. A daily relaxation practice can help relieve symptoms of depression, reduce stress, and boost feelings of joy and well-being. Try yoga, deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or meditation.

Spend time in sunlight. Getting outside during daylight hours and exposing yourself to the sun can help boost serotonin levels and improve your mood. Take a walk, have your coffee outside, or double up on the benefits by exercising outdoors. If you live somewhere with little winter sunshine, try using a light therapy box.

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Professional treatment for depression in men

If support from family and friends and positive lifestyle changes aren’t enough, seek help from a mental health professional. Be open about how you’re feeling as well as your physical symptoms. Treatments for depression in men include:

Therapy. You may feel that talking to a stranger about your problems is ‘unmanly,’ or that therapy carries with it a victim status. However, if therapy is available to you, it can often bring a swift sense of relief, even to the most skeptical male.

Medication. Antidepressant medication may help relieve some symptoms of depression, but doesn’t cure the underlying problem, and is rarely a long-term solution. Medication also comes with side effects. Don’t rely on a doctor who is not trained in mental health for guidance on medication, and always pursue self-help steps as well.

Helping a man with depression

It often takes a wife, partner, or other family member to recognize a man’s symptoms of depression.

Talking to a man about depression

Many men don’t exhibit typical depressive symptoms—but rather anger and reckless behavior—so you may want to avoid using the word “depression” and try describing his behavior as “stressed” or “overly tired.” It could help him to open up.

Point out how his behavior has changed, without being critical. For example, “You always seem get stomach pains before work,” or “You haven’t played racquetball for months.”

Suggest a general check-up with a physician. He may be less resistant to seeing a family doctor than a mental health specialist at first. The doctor can rule out medical causes of depression and then make a referral.

Offer to accompany him on the first visit with a mental health specialist. Some men are resistant to talking about their feelings, so try to remove roadblocks to him seeking help.

Encourage him to make a list of symptoms to discuss. Help him focus on his feelings as well as physical ailments, and to be honest about his use of alcohol and drugs.

How to support a man with depression

Engage him in conversation and listen carefully. Do not disparage the feelings he expresses, but do point out realities and offer hope.

Do not ignore remarks about suicide. Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or find a suicide helpline outside the U.S. at Befrienders Worldwide.

Invite him for walks, outings, and other activities. Be gently insistent if your invitation is refused.

Encourage participation in activities that once gave pleasure, such as hobbies, sports, or cultural activities, but do not push him to undertake too much too soon.

Do not expect him ‘to snap out of it.’ Instead, keep reassuring him that, with time and help, he will feel better.

You may need to monitor whether he is taking prescribed medication or attending therapy. Encourage him to follow orders about the use of alcohol if he’s prescribed antidepressants.

Remember, you can’t “fix” someone else’s depression. You’re not to blame for your loved one’s depression or responsible for his happiness. Ultimately, recovery is in his hands.

Adapted from: National Institute of Mental Health